With this being Valentines Day, I figure there’s no better way to celebrate the holiday than to highlight the power of a heart connection from a dad to his daughter. 

And though some may view this day as one reserved only for romance between sweethearts, I see it as an opportunity for a girl to be treated in an extra special way by her dad, thus creating a model for future comparison so she’ll know how to be treated when the love of her life comes knocking! 

Rather than give her 12 roses to let her know she’s loved by you today, why not instead choose 12 things that you can do for her or with her to let her know she’s worth celebrating.

This 14th day of February can be the start of a new tradition where you give her your time, your energy, and your creativity to say, “You’re my valentine.” [Incidentally, you’ll notice that none of these things cost money, but will require that you dig deeper inside yourself than your wallet.] 

Have fun being resourceful in ways that require ingenuity, patience, a servant’s heart, and a good dose of humor.

Here’s a dozen ideas to help you win her heart anew this Valentines Day:

1. Do something fun where the two of you enjoy an activity together ---walking, running, biking, shooting hoops, kicking a ball, playing a board game, eating, cooking, etc.

2. Let her teach you something she’s good at and you’re not ---baking, cooking, doing an art project, coloring, talking, etc.

3. Write a letter telling her the qualities you love, admire, respect, and want to reinforce in her ---for extra credit, read and then give her the letter, which I guarantee will be something she will treasure for the rest of her life.

4. Step out of your comfort zone and invite her to dance with you to one of her favorite songs ---if she declines, don't feel bad; she won't forget you asked, even if she says “no” to your request. 

5. Listen for ten uninterrupted minutes while practicing active listening skills ---look at her while she talks, nod your head to show you’re interested, lean forward, ask questions to encourage her to talk more (yes, you heard me right!), and put away all distractions to give her your full attention. 

6. Share three stories from your childhood that you’ve never told her before ---of course you’ll want to ask her if she'd like to hear them since some girls like hearing stories more (or less) than others.

7. Serve her in a way that is unexpected and out of the ordinary---fix something that’s broken, run an errand so she doesn’t have to, make her bed for her, do one of her chores as a surprise gift to her, etc.

8. Ask if you’ve hurt her and then seek forgiveness after hearing the whole story ---then follow the lead of one dad who has makes a practice of asking his five-year old daughter this question every night as he tucks her into bed, "Has Daddy been sharp with you today?" This allows him to hear if or how he’s hurt her and immediately do damage control.

9. Surf the internet with her and find funny videos that make both of you laugh ---because humor bonds us to those around us, why not intentionally create space to connect over shared laughter, which releases endorphins that will cause both of you to feel happier.

10. Take selfies of the two of you putting random things on your heads with silly captions to then post on her social media sites with the hashtag: #daddaughterselfie

11. At any time of the day make her a breakfast food she loves---pancakes, waffles, omelet, cereal, etc.---and then eat it with no hands to create an experience that is sure to serve as a lasting memory! (Idea credit: Garth Brooks, who led his daughters to do this with him during their growing up years, which inspires others to now follow his lead).

12. Watch one of her favorite television shows or movies with her ---be sure not to tease her or belittle her for anything she likes and then offer to pop popcorn or dish up ice cream to make the experience extra fun and enjoyable. 

Dad, why not give your daughter a new kind of Valentine gift this year that requires your full attention and whole heart.

I’m convinced that she’ll feel loved by you in a new way as you give more of yourself than money can buy. I believe this has the potential to be better than a dozen roses as this forever memory will last a lifetime!