After the intensity of the last two-plus years with the pandemic--and after the recent school shooting in Texas--we’re all feeling the heaviness. And we’re all in dire need of more points of connection with those we love.

Translation: Your daughter is in desperate need of more positive interactions with you (probably more than she knows).

And just in case you missed me writing about this silly tradition that my dad and I started back in 2010, I want to share it again in the hope that you do something similar with your daughter this week to activate laughter and joy while decreasing her stress (and yours).

It all started when my dad and I began grocery shopping together on Monday nights. At first it was a one-time thing, but somehow became a weekly tradition.

Slow but sure, we began to notice that the often-dreaded job of walking through food aisles with lists in hand became much more fun when we joined forces. I guess you could say that we found a new way to bond as dad and daughter while journeying the long corridors of jars and cans, boxes and bags.

Then somewhere along the way we began taking goofy pictures with things we’d find around the store. First there were silly hats we forced each other to wear at Christmastime…

Followed by seasonal items here or there…

…Until finally it became a weekly challenge to find random items to stick on our heads for a crazy photo op. (I’m not quite sure how headwear became “the thing,” but it did!)

Now I’ll let you in on the real scoop: I was usually the one who talked my dad into doing these inane poses. Often he was past the point of embarrassment, trying to get the pictures done fast and in the least conspicuous way as possible. But he really was always a great sport, entering in fully, and in the end we were always laughing.

And life is too short not to laugh a bit more, don’t you think?!

As you can see, whether we were donning hats or pails, fruit or ribbon, it didn’t matter. What mattered was that we were creating a forever memory. And what I love is that none of this cost anything, except a little time and creativity. In fact, this tradition is one that I treasure deep in my heart and every once in awhile, we still activate our dad-daughter selfie tradition.

And now that I’m married, I’m so thankful that I have these years of crazy pictures and fun memories with my dad.

The bottom line is that my dad joined in because he loves me. He put up with my silliness because he enjoys having fun with me.

Your daughter needs this kind of fun, silly, bonding time with you, Dad.

You can probably see where I’m going with this. I finally asked myself: What if this dad-daughter selfie thing became a contagious nationwide phenomenon where dads (or any “version” of a dad, be it a mentor dad, foster dad, step dad, etc.) and daughters across America started taking pictures in grocery stores with whatever items they could find and then shared them?

So I’m inviting you to join me and my dad in this crazy, silly, fun, funny venture.

If you post on Facebook, be sure to tag me at https://www.facebook.com/drmichellewatson ---or on Instagram @michellejwatson ----or on Twitter @mwatsonphd.

Use the hashtag #daddaughterselfie and … let the photos begin!